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These are some mistakes that parents make. So learn it the hard way. And for others here is the guide. This has been compiled after taking to many parents with teens.

The five gravest mistakes of parents:

Mistake No. 1 – Don’t talk much but LISTEN. Many parents just talk and don’t want to listen to what the teens have to say. This is wrong. They also have a right to express themselves.

Solution: Listen to them, take out time, and stop whatever you are up to. Make them feel that you are always there for them whenever they want you. Sometimes they would want the other person just to listen and not give suggestions.

Mistake No. 2 - Busy Parents – Some parents assume and complete the sentences themselves without giving the teens to speak out themselves.

Solution: Let them complete what they have to say. Don’t always give solutions, instead listen to them. When they feel they are listened to, they feel important and respected.

Mistake No. 3 – the dreaded word ‘Should’ – it is a word that makes one feel that they are forced to do it with or without their consent. Perturbed teenagers become fuming adults.

Solution: Use words like ’please’ & ‘Thank you’ more often with your children. Don’t make them feel that you are ordering them to do something. Instead make it a request. Like instead of should u can say ’CAN’.

Mistake No. 4 – Over-Protective Parents – Protecting your chill whenever and by however mean every time is not cool. Children feel suffocated this way. Moreover, how would they learn from their mistakes if you don’t let them be their usual self?

Solution: Allow them to take their own decisions. Obviously you should talk to them about various outcomes and consequences but the ultimate decision whether good or bad should be from their side. How else will they learn from their mistakes?

Mistake No. 5 – Criticizing them – The teens take this in a very wrong way and could end up avoiding you. They feel they are not respected, or you don’t trust them with anything. That escalates into anger.

Solution: When they do things right acknowledge and praise them. Respect and love them for what they are. This makes them respected and happy. They also will start behaving better to get your attention.

Upbringing children is no doubt a daunting task. Many parents seek help from experts when they feel the children are going out of hand. However, experts suggest that instead of taking extreme steps when the child grows up, it is better to start utilizing your parenting skills right from the beginning. The good bond between parent and the child goes a long way in establishing good rapport.

Every parent obviously has some fixed notions about bringing up their child. However experts say that instead of having fixed notions, one should be flexible enough to adapt to changes during growing years of their children. No two children are similar and therefore their handling differs. Childcare experts say that some degree of strictness is necessary for certain issues while raising kids but there must be consistency in implementing certain issues.

Also some flexibility and freedom must be given to kids so that they feel at ease. This freedom makes them feel that their parents trust in them and therefore there are fewer chances they go awry. Also those kids who are given certain degree of freedom tend to be more open to their parents and so communication is good. Obviously communication is a vital tool that resolves almost all problems pertaining to children as well as their parents!